I know there are many reasons out there for being afraid of love. One of the biggest reasons is heartbreak – putting your entire hope of the future on one person, giving them your whole heart and trusting them not to hurt you – right before they take your heart and stab it 37 times with a dagger. After being hurt like this you may feel that love doesn’t really exist, or it does exist, but just not for you specifically.
There are many tragic stories out there for you to read about love going horribly wrong, leaving an empty shell of a person behind. Maybe you experienced this yourself. But, if you want, you could read about hundreds of thousands of cases where love actually did work out, the couple got married and they stayed married. Isn’t it worth risking your heart if it may work out for you in the end? If it doesn’t work out, you won’t have love. Period. But if it does work… it’ll be the best thing that could have ever happened to you. It can’t work out if you are too afraid of getting into it in the first place. Another fear people have is the fear that they aren’t worthy of being loved. In this case, if someone tells you they love you, you won’t really believe it’s completely true because you’re not really that special. If someone loves you after spending enough time with you for them to really mean it, then chances are good that they love you for real. You have to work on your self-esteem and love yourself before you’ll really believe that someone else can love you.
To get over your fear of love for good, you have to figure out why you’re afraid of it. If it’s not because of bad past experience, is it because you don’t want someone else to be able to control parts of your life? Or maybe because you’ll have to make time for that person and you don’t really have time to give away? Once you know why you are afraid, you can conquer this fear. You have to realise that failing in love is all right – everyone fails at love a few times before they find the one. Don’t be afraid to try again. Try again with just as much enthusiasm as you had tried the first time. And if that fails again, then you try again. I’m telling you to be brave. Call first, text first, go out and get who you want. Be brave until you succeed. It will be worth it in the end.