Ask, Jess! Relationship and lifestyle advice

Dear Jess,

My boyfriend of six months wants to take the next step further. He wants to have sex with me.  I am not sure if I am ready yet even though I do really love him. I just don’t know what to do. I cannot talk to my parents about this. Can you help?

Dear Confused,

Six months is not a long time. And, the fact that you don’t know what to do answers your question. Don’t do it! If you have to question anything in your life it more than likely is not the right thing to do. Plus, if you love him and he loves you just as equally then he should understand. And, if he doesn’t- give him the boot. He’s NOT worth it!


Dear Jess,

I have been working at my current job for two years. I work as an IT consultant in a relatively small office. It was my first job after I graduated from university. My pay is okay and it’s an easy job. I have a lot of colleagues whom I get on with quite well. But, the thing is I am just not happy there. Every single day whilst I am sitting at my office staring at my computer screen is like Groundhog Day. I get my coffee, respond to emails, and have lunch and then the rest of the day I’m in meetings. And, the next day is the same and so on. Why am I not happy?  Bill R., London

Dear Bill,

It sounds like you’re stuck in a rut. You have said your job is easy and you have a good group of people surrounding you. However, it sounds as if you are not being challenged enough within your role. Is there a more of a managerial role you can apply for or something in a different department? What about applying for a higher paid position in the same role within a different company? The fact that you get along with your colleagues is a special thing. You could end up in a new position with a bunch of annoying political office people. Try mixing up your routine a little bit. You don’t have to be so habitual. Try grabbing a tea in the morning and newspaper. It is important to know what is going on in this world. Even if you get 10 minutes to read one story you’ve changed your routine dramatically.

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